User blog comment:ForestFairy/How to resolve conflict/@comment-26880402-20150823165703/@comment-26880402-20150823211602

I couldn't agree more about bringing up the past. The only time we have any control over is right now, and even that's questionable. I've never found a good way to deal with someone that is addicted to bringing up the past or just loves conflict. The only thing I've found to do is stay away from them. Conflict is inevitable. If I lived alone in the world I know I'd wind up telling myself I'd done something stupid and start a fight. :)

Whether it's the person taking my money at the car lot or my senator, I treat everyone the same way; the way I'd want to be treated. Courtesy and a little respect cost nothing. That prevents lots of conflicts right there, and gets you great service, too! :)

Thanks for the reply, you got me thinking about some things. Electronic media is tough because the anonymity and the inability to look some people in the eye when they say something empowers their inner idiot and bully. People say things in forums and emails they'd never have the courage to say to someone's face. I don't see an easy fix for that.