User blog comment:ForestFairy/How to resolve conflict/@comment-26185788-20150917141422

I have friends who are married. He is an artist, and she is a professor in early childhood education. Both are introverts. They manage their conflict by scheduling a time. They have learned to recognize that emotion drives the conflict and so they stop and schedule a time later in the day or the next, proximate to the conflict. A significant majority of the time, neither one can recall what the conflict was about or why it was a conflict but they often conclude it was the situation: in a hurry, tired, personal agendas and schedules not shared, expectations.... In other words, they learn what their spouse needs or wants and in learning that, conflicts can be avoided. They also learn more about each other by setting up this time to talk. It always ends well and the relationship is strengthened through understanding. It may not work for everyone but it is an option. Michele Syms