Thread:Amethystkitten/@comment-27794543-20170222104620/@comment-27794543-20170222104923

This message is intended for Leila. (Obviously Taya can see it, but this message isn't intended directly for her. It's not meant to be an attack on anyone, rather I'm trying to express where I'm coming from to Leila, so she could mediate this situation. I'm intentionally keeping this off The 100 wikia to try to keep any drama from there.)

Relevant threads to recent disagreement: initial thread on the 100 wikia & reply on CC.

My biggest issue has nothing to do with maps or tabbers – it's how Taya keeps telling me off for meaningless stuff but doesn't tell off other people for similar or worse stuff. In a sense, I feel targeted by her. Here she's telling me off for being too fast, here for bold move of categories (notice, she didn't tell off the other user for their bold create of those categories), here for using a sandbox, here for "negative tone", here for being unfriendly (which, to be frank, I don't think my comment was rude or nasty – I see people make much worse comments in the forums without Taya saying anything, yet it takes her only 20 minutes to jump on my comment), etc. This situation has been going on for months and it continually frustrates me.

Taya is the primary admin on the wiki and I don't want a bad relationship with her. But given her continual criticism of me, I feel like I always have to tiptoe around her. There are many things on the wikia that require admin rights, yet I always have to think twice/thrice/etc. before bringing anything up to Taya in fear that it'll somehow come back to bite me. And that's exactly what happened in the recent disagreement: I brought up that the maps she uploaded had inaccuracies and it led to her telling me off for making an edit to a page. It just confirms to me that my apprehension is justified.

When I contacted Taya, my primary concern was the inaccuracies in the maps. Yes, I edited the Locations page forty minutes beforehand, but I did not consider the edit significant nor the topic of conversation. If she disagreed with the tabber, all she had to do is undo it and perhaps leave a note saying that "I think it's better for readers when fan-created maps are mixed in with screenshots." That's an opening to have a conversation. Instead, I felt, that she completely shut me down: starting with "I don't appreciate", that "you failed", that "you should have" done this instead, and "Now I have to go" do tons of work because clicking one revert button is exhausting (sorry for sarcasm, but that's how I deal with frustration over this entire situation).

This one conversation just adds to our long history of disagreements. I don't even care enough about the tabber to argue over it (the reason behind my edit on the Locations page was to make sure that non-canon maps are clearly marked as such for readers). I didn't think that adding a tabber forty minutes beforehand was particularly relevant to her maps having inaccuracies (but if she thought so, she could have said so without being authoritarian). At the end of the day, her revert doesn't matter. What matters is how she choose to reply. What frustrates me is her continued criticism of me, finding some invisible faults.

I have made an effort to avoid her, make messages to her extra-polite (though my replies after she criticizes me are generally less "friendly" than my messages before she criticizes me, though I do attempt to still stay polite), etc. I'm not sure what more I can do, besides quit the wikia to which I enjoy contributing to.