Thread:Sannse/@comment-3045936-20130502232040/@comment-8-20130506170946

Hi Twilight Despair,

I've had a look at the conversations, and this seems to be more of a mutual misunderstanding than anything else.

Firstly, I think both of you were hearing an angry or unhappy tone in each others messages. I know from experience that it's easy to read the same sentence with two wildly different tones, just because of our expectations and feelings about the other person. When I read the messages from each of you, I don't see anything to make me feel you were being nasty to each other, although it got more heated of course. But generally, I just see frustration and annoyance at the others (perceived) tone.

The other problem seems to be that you both wanted the last word. You would say "here's what I think, but don't continue this", and he would say "OK, I won't continue, here's my last points" and so it circled. Sometimes you need to say "I won't continue", an then ignore all replies, even if the other person tries to get the last word.

The collaborative nature of wikis means that conversations like this happen, and get heated at times, but it's usually possible to work though them :)