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1. A confident child is one who believes in himself
A child can receive faith:

From parental faith

Only a parent who believes in their baby can instill this confidence in him. By worrying about the child, we "assure" the child that he will not succeed. At the same time, more attention should be paid to situations when the child was successful and coped independently. Do not forget both yourself and him to remind you of these moments.

How can he learn if he doesn't try? Experience can be different: both positive and negative. It is better to show where it is more convenient to put the leg and how to hold on with your hands. After all, he knows how to climb the usual stairs, and once this obstacle seemed insurmountable.

Of adequate reflection, mirroring

When you catch yourself once again criticizing the child, pointing out his failures and mistakes, be sure to find positive moments. Show the situation from all sides: cons and pros, focusing on what he can do. If the baby knows about his successes and talents, he can always rely on the strengths of his personality, and therefore ask for help in the weak.

2. Confident does not mean self-sufficient
A confident person is not one who will never ask for help. The one who is able to sometimes ask for support has more self-confidence. If the child relies only on himself, he will take on an unbearable burden, which will lead to overexertion and mistakes. And for this, you need to know an objective picture of your capabilities.

If simple examples are easy for him, but at the same time he confuses letters, it does not matter if he asks you to help.

3. Confident child understands their capabilities, abilities, talents, and limitations.
None of us are perfect! And we cannot do absolutely everything and perfectly. Therefore, it is important to convey to the child that you cannot do everything. Something is given, but we are not inclined to something.

Paying attention to the abilities and developing the capabilities of the child in a particular case, you can raise a real specialist in your profession.

To do this, ask the child about his dreams and desires, which contain information about him. It is in fantasies that babies are closest to their inner "I", authenticity (authenticity). Try to make a table of his capabilities with the child: what he knows how to do, what he does not know how to do, what he does better than anyone else, what only he does.

One girl dreamed of becoming, for example, a plumber, but she got a degree in conflictology. It turns out that the plumber in her children's understanding was a person who can solve any problems. The dream has come true!

4. Confident child - a child who knows their rights
A confident person, both small and large, is one who knows his rights. Rights are dignity. Those who do not have them - in fact, a slave, limited in opportunities and actions.

A disenfranchised and obedient person is depressed and unsure of himself.

5. A humiliated child will never be confident.
No matter how innocent your ridicule and jokes maybe, in a child they often only cause anger. Taking insults at face value can make children feel overwhelmed by devaluation or your position as a patron.

By humiliating, you run the risk of getting the same attitude towards yourself in the future. Only respect will help your child to become more confident. By the way, here are some ideas for teaching your child respect in a simple way.

6. A confident child is a thinking, reflective child who has his own position and ideas
In order for a child to have his own opinion and to know that he is reckoned with, it is necessary to ask more often “how do you think”, “how do you think”, “and how do you think”.

He needs reflections. While he is small, it is clear that the final decision is yours, but every year he will have to make more and more independent decisions.

7. Confident child knows what he wants
How often childish stubbornness drives parents to despair! Yes, this is inconvenient for you and you do not always have the patience to communicate with the little stubborn, but the child should know what he wants. And it is important for parents to maintain children's contact with their desires and the ability to preserve identity (awareness of oneself as a person, individuality).

8. A confident child is not someone who is being controlled
Walking, studying, eating, playing, watching TV, reading - perhaps it is difficult to find a corner in a child's life that is not controlled by their parents. Adults, caring, do not let him "fall" by making their mistakes. The fears of the parents are understandable, but how can he learn to control himself? Having got used to your "safety net", the baby will not be confident in his abilities: I can’t be without a mother, I don’t know, I’m little ...

In these cases, it is useful to involve the dad, who gives the baby more freedom - and therefore a developing experience.

9. A confident child is one whose family is safe
My home is my castle! A child, having a reliable rear in the person of his family, will be confident in himself. A family is a place where you can relax, and that's where we are most vulnerable. And if in the house a baby is faced with violence, insults, aggressive attacks, inappropriate behavior of adults, regular dissatisfaction, criticism, then you will not only lose faith in yourself.

Moreover, it is important when children rely on adults and not vice versa. For example, mothers often like to complain about dad, telling the baby what they think about their spouse.

10. A confident child is one who is not loaded beyond his strength or age
If a child has to do something for which the child's body or psyche is not ready, then he will not always be able to cope with it. It would seem that parents should understand and accept this. But in practice, every now and then, by our assignments, we cause the child a feeling of failure and anxiety.

For example, mothers often ask the elder to look after the younger (play, feed, take a walk), but sometimes they forget that he himself is still a child (with a slight difference). And it is especially important for a boy to feel strong, strong, confident that he can do a lot. There is no need to destroy his faith in himself.

11. A confident child is one who is good at saying “no” when he sees fit
It is important for parents to understand that the child has the right to refuse. Having learned first to distinguish "his" from "not his", the baby should be able to show aggression and refuse. Let the children's "no!" torment only you, but you can be sure that at the right time he will be able to resolutely refuse others. For both adults and children. In addition, he will more calmly accept the refusals of others.

12. A confident child is one who is accepted as he is
No matter what happens, even if he was mistaken and did not cope with something, the child must understand that he is loved anyway. Failed now, it will definitely work later. You can't "trade" proximity.

Never compare your child with anyone and do not compete with him yourself. It is difficult for an anxious parent to trust a child - believe in yourself and in him. Give more examples about yourself. After all, it was not easy for you to learn anything either. Have you made few mistakes? But you tried and overcame the difficulties!