Thread:X-Mutant/@comment-36009152-20181122161511/@comment-36009152-20181123145239

Hey there it’s fine, you’re not being annoying, it’s nice to hear from you.

For your first message, with that other person maybe consider asking yourself “do I want to take part in friction arguments that don’t lead anywhere, or do I want to be doing something nicer that does lead somewhere.”

There it was well meaning advice basically saying let’s not call people rude names (which is a fair point, no matter how upset you may feel, you’re better than swearing remember) and also something along the lines of filling your time doing what you like. Since we’re on Fandom, watching the movie and making notes you would like to document on the wiki for example might be productive and far more fun.

With that conversation can you observe there’s a lot of “I didn’t say” this, "I don’t mean it like that" kind of talk. Don’t feel obliged to correct every misinterpreted comment, when it comes right down to it a simple “thank you for your input” is all that’s needed before moving on to do what you enjoy. Change your tactics, the only way to win this game is not to play it.

I understand if you’re feeling irked but the very good news is here and in other conversations a lot of it comes down to misinterpreting what’s being said when really none of it is needed.

With that person maybe it would be nice to ask which wikis they like to contribute to and work together adding to those. That bypasses the unneeded conflict entirely. You’ve changed the railway tracks to a different direction and instead you would be focused on taking part constructively in areas you enjoy. Apply that elsewhere, why bicker when you could be finding nice things to do, right? You make the better rules, and demonstrate they're better.

This is the reply for your other two messages. I can tell there has been a misunderstanding because you have said you have found "negative views" in my messages to you. You have also said “makes me think you are the kind of person to jump on the bandwagon” among other things.

I am very surprised to hear these statements from you. I had your back in your original conversation, I exchanged 20+ messages with the admin of the wiki you are banned on where I successfully ensured that you could return to the site after your block ended. I have given you only positive practical advice on how to move forward.

I don’t understand why you’re trying to be hurtful with these awful unjustified accusations towards myself, I thought we were friends.

With the ban reason and some other areas it would be beneficial to get to the bottom of certain views you appear to hold, of which you know I have the better course forward.

These ‘truths’ about LGBT+ people, which are based on a few miniscule remarks you came across on Youtube  do seem to be haunting you and is what got you banned.

Remember the points about random comments? A few people on a site making off the hand comments aren’t worth a second glance let alone analysing. If people don’t want to have kids that’s fine, but essentially stating “some random people on Youtube said men and woman together is boring, we don’t need kids anymore therefore if you’re into gay marriage it means you don’t value or support life” is nonsensical. It would be the same if someone saw one of your comments and said “look at X-Mutant he’s single so he thinks a man and woman together is boring, so if you support straight marriage it means you don’t value life.” It’s the way statements are twisted that’s harmful, and more so when applied to multiple people when everyone in the world is unique and different.

No matter what you say there won’t be negative feelings between us, I'm glad you feel we can discuss matters as friends. To grasp the problem by the root though and since it is an on-going one it might be worth stating exactly how you feel about LGBT+ people. I’m sure you don’t really think they don’t value life, or desire the extinction of the human race by not reproducing anymore, especially based on a few comments among billions. Same as if a straight person wrote “we are on this world to reproduce let’s make millions of babies we can’t look after" and with their 'truths' of their huge divorce rates, "see how those straight people don’t care for life, they don’t even love another, and they always cheat with one another to breed even more!” It sounds absurd because it is, and that is how the admin would have viewed your remarks.

Treat everyone how you want to be treated yourself and no more "gay/straight people don't support life because of nonsense reason 1, 2 and 3." It's meant to sound blunt, it's going to help you hold nicer views and avoid being banned in the future. Not only would others find such statements inaccurate and disrespectful, they also have no place on the Zootopia wiki of all things, or any wiki for that matter. Besides, you’re there to enjoy reading and adding to the site, aren’t you?

Be your happy self for your own pleasure and your daughter and niece. Same with pets, animals are amazing and you're right they can sense goodness. You are lucky you have them and family in your life, remember to focus on what matters and fill your time with stuff you like. There is no doubt you are a nice person, but nice people can still unintentionally say unpleasant things. Though from now on there won't be a need to misunderstand comments or even concern yourself with them, progress where you can.