Board Thread:Technical Updates/@comment-24006128-20200311154142/@comment-1807002-20200319174234

Fandyllic wrote: I specifically said it was to try to relate to the user (but forgetting to quote). And I do believe my post was we can't judge until we have the finished project. If the user mentioned their favorite colour to start their post- I may have mentioned mine (then what we'd be arguing over the importance to preferred colours?).

This is a difficult stage 1 phase 1 and it is currently sucking (I am not denying that)- I was merely trying to say what I believed could help. The I felt being nit-picked for mentioning what I believe- I see even you say (your time at Fandom/Wikia/Wikicities), it is a common tidbit people mention.

I just don't see the value of nit-picking someone trying to relate to a user in order to help. The last thing we need during this stressful stage is this. I have always respected both you and Tupka and I was speaking in what I believe was a respectful tone (I hope that is the case for you two (too)) over- how I felt their comment was to me (which means I was clearly upset by it).

If the user was upset by my comment for being demeaning and invalidating- I'd at least try to reassure that wasn't my intention instead of inflaming more.

When you provide help for me (which you have countlessly through out the years) I must admit I found it comforting know you were a vet user but I wouldn't not take your help if you weren't. This was about relating; not saying time in is more important.

edit: slammed isn't exactly accurate term so replaced.