Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-26302435-20150411225546/@comment-1038387-20150412012920

Reading your message, there are definitely a couple of things I would've done differently, but it's too late to change it now. A phrase like "Please explain why" immediately puts the other in the defensive; the please doesn't make it any friendlier. He doesn't have to explain. also, the list of things you added is so complete it makes your intended defense an offensive. That's confrontational. You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar: include at least some leeway, because you just might be wrong.

Perhaps I should've been clearer - those things I mentioned are for the entire conversation, not the initial post. It might have been an innocent misunderstanding on either his part or yours. Start calm. You can always get angry later. Or not.