Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-24155515-20160208000703

This is more of an ethical dilemma on my personal part than anything else, but is it appropriate to ask another wiki to remove a link to a wiki you help run if the wiki you run denied affiliation?

Walt Disney Animation Studios Wiki has included Wreck-It Ralph Wiki in its list of affiliates, despite our denying affiliation (discussion links:, (the other admins I posed this to were inactive long enough that I closed the threads on their walls)).

I haven't posed the current dilemma to others on our local wiki (largely because it's wholly inactive and anyone I'd expect to quickly respond also hangs around here often enough to see this), and I know that in the technical sense, WIR Wiki has no jurisdiction over WDAS Wiki, but the crux of the issue is that I feel it's unfair to WDAS Wiki for them to link to WIR Wiki because we openly decided not to link back (you can see a longer but still-short form of this thought process at this thread on WDAS Wiki). Us not linking back means that we may be getting traffic from WDAS Wiki but they are not getting the same thing from us (and that feels wrong to me); however, we denied affiliation before we were ever linked to as an affiliate.

The admin who added the affiliation to WDAS Wiki was the person who suggested it on WIR Wiki and is a confirmed-by-all-but-IP sockpuppet of a now-indef-blocked WIR Wiki user (as is WDAS wiki's creator, except they're also CheckUser-connected), though that didn't have much if anything to do with why we didn't affiliate.

I have tried to keep as civil as I can and facilitate discussion with both the adding admin and another active one who is unlikely to be an alternative account of that admin, but the other active one doesn't seem to check messages and the adding one seems only to be interested in pushing me away. The first time I mentioned going to get an alternate opinion (I actually began drafting a message much like this one when it happened but backed out after what I am about to mention), my mention of intent to do so was deleted and I was granted every user right a local admin could give (I later self-demoted)--presumably to allow me to change the main page to remove the affiliation myself, though considering it's been added back after my initial removal, that would have only led to edit-warring if I'd kept the rights. And now we're at an impasse.

Am I just going a bit wacky? Attempting to exert too much control over another wiki's infrastructure? Concerning myself too much with something I shouldn't be concerned about? Or is this a reasonable request?

(I would have been okay with a denial of the request, it just feels like I haven't been given an answer either way. Should I interpret the removal of my request thread on the adding admin's wall (with a reason of "boring") as a no? (The reason I'm reluctant to do so is that this sort of thread closing was his sockmaster's M.O. on WIR Wiki when he didn't want to listen to something, which makes me lean toward "this is a non-answer" rather than "okay, they said no".))

Am I strange for even making this thread? Am I just making a fool of myself with it and rambling into the abyss? (In all honesty, I'm actually genuinely concerned with the way I'm coming across; I tried to present the information in the most unbiased manner possible and don't want to come across as "wah wah this other wiki won't do what I say" because that's not what I want.)

 