Thread:Imamadmad/@comment-24200325-20150630070938/@comment-4189499-20150701155226

Rose, relax! People aren't generally out to get you! If somebody comes and complains to you that you're making unnecessary edits, calmly respond to them the precedence you're following, including links to specific diffs of the other users making similar edits, and if they continue to complain, start a discussion calmly with all the people involved with making edits of that nature and you can then discuss the pros and cons in an open environment where everyone can contribute and share their opinions and some sort of consensus on your approach can be reached. Just make sure you respond to any negative feedback in a conversation such as that in a calm and measured fashion, knowing that the negative feedback is directed towards the idea and not you as a person.

I really appreciate you actively trying to avoid dramas on CCSW. I will say, however, that you shouldn't, under any circumstances, make any announcement of your retirement from chat. That will just look as if you're trying to cause drama, which is the opposite of what you want. If people start complaining that they never see you on chat, just inform them that they can always chat with you on your message wall! Speaking of dramas, for the time being, I think you should also take a break from trying to prevent them. Dramas tend to be paradoxical, as the more you try to prevent them, the more they grow. Ignoring dramas completely is actually the best way to get rid of them. If nobody cares, dramas won't grow. I know you just want to restore peace and harmony on the wiki, but it is human nature to argue from time to time, and it is best to stay out of it completely if at all possible and let the situation resolve itself without the threats of blocks from outside users hanging over people's heads.

I'm also glad that you've taken the decision not to respond to vandals in any inflammatory fashion, however I will say that you should always give at least one warning to users outlining their bad behaviours to give them a chance to mend their ways before blocking. Here's a suggestion of the kind of thing you could say when warning people which keeps the tone light, assumes good faith to encourage those who did genuinely make a mistake, yet still tells troublemakers that the continuation of their behaviour will result in badness for them. Feel free to use it yourself if you want:


 * Hey there. Thanks for editing with us! I am just here to inform you that we do not like   on this wiki, and I may be forced under our local wiki policy to block you if you continue this behaviour. Don't worry, we all make mistakes from time to time! Just don't do it again. Anyway, I hope to see you around. :)

However, I will add that, no matter how much it annoys you, please do not interact with users who talk about buffs, not even if they seem to be vandals who you want to block. Your personal distaste for these sorts of comments has meant that in this situation only your judgement isn't the best. If you feel a user has genuinely crossed a line with their buff comments, I would recommend you ask a different admin to decide how to deal with the user. This is something that is done often in places where there is potential bias in the observing user's judgement, and I have often been called in to judge a situation from the outside, and have similarly asked others to judge situations where I feel I hold too much bias to judge fairly.

You are improving greatly, Rose, and I really hope to see you mature further over the coming months! However, if I were you, I would not put too much attention on the desire to become a bureaucrat in the short term. Maybe in a couple of years time, but I don't think you have yet reached the level of maturity needed for that role, and from looking at others' comments, they feel the same. You are a brilliant admin, but not yet ready to become a bureaucrat. Not to worry though! The only thing bureaucrats can do which regular users can't is make new admins. That's it. You are not missing out on much by not being a bureaucrat. If you want to become a bureaucrat because you believe it would give you more respect, then I'm afraid to inform you that respect doesn't work that way. Respect is something that can only be earned through hard work and a good attitude. You do not need to be a bureaucrat, or even an admin, to gain the respect of the community, and similarly having admin or bureaucrat rights does not mean that people will automatically respect you. You need to earn others' respect, and I believe you can do that! Just remember to be nice to others no matter how much they infuriate you (side note: there is no better way to get back at a person who is being mean to you than by being nice to them. They want to make you angry, so responding to them with a pleasant attitude is really going to infuriate them!), and remember that the block button is an absolute last resort which you should use only when conversation has proved insufficient.

Good luck!