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Common Causes of Bullying
Bullies come from dysfunctional families: A dysfunctional family is not a guarantee that a child will become a bully. However, a large number of bullies come from homes where there is little affection and openness. They may often witness their parents being aggressive toward friends, siblings or other members of the family.

Bullies need to be in control: Kids who push others around are often driven by the need for power. They enjoy being able to subdue others. These types of kids are typically impulsive and hot headed and they thrive when their victims cower in their presence.

Bullying behavior gets rewarded: Most people don’t do this intentionally; however, the perpetrator is inadvertently rewarded anytime victims give up their lunch money or belongings. They also get rewarded by gaining popularity, attention, or the power of having others afraid of them. These unintentional rewards reinforce bullying behavior and encourage the perpetrator to keep pushing others around.

Bullies don’t care how others feel: Some children either lack empathy or just relish seeing others in pain. When they hurt someone, they have no sense of what the victims or the people around them are feeling. Sometimes a perpetrator may even get pleasure from seeing a child yelp as he kicks him down the hallway. The reactions of the victims give the bully a sense of accomplishment, so he continues the behavior.

Bullies can’t regulate their emotions: When people get frustrated and angry, they can usually stop themselves from doing things that will hurt others. When kids don’t have the ability to regulate their emotions, small annoyances can provoke them and cause them to severely overreact. For example, a child may be innocently walking down the hall and accidentally bump into a bully. Even though the child apologizes, the bully may lose his temper and slam the victim into the wall.

Bullying is a serious issue that’s not going to go away until parents, teachers and administrators address the reasons why kids bully in the first place. With the right guidance, resources and education, kids can get the tools they need to learn to work through their issues instead of dealing with them by bullying others.

Help your friends and family understand the common causes of bullying and spread the word on how to spot a bully before a situation spirals out of control. www.nobullying.comcommon-causes-of-bullying