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Divorce can end some unhappy, unhealthy unions, and in the end, can become the best solution for a struggling family. But if you’re a parent going through it, you’re probably thinking about more than just yourself. If you stay up at night wondering how your children are affected — you’re not alone. There are ways to make this familial transition a bit easier for everyone. Pediatrician Heather Sever, DO, says that divorce and separation can impact children at any age. “When parents are going through difficult times, children perceive that, regardless of their age. So while kids may express their stresses in different ways at different ages, it’s important for parents to be as open and honest as possible, even with difficult situations,” she says.

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To be able to guide your child through this major life event, you must first understand your child’s feelings and then, equip yourself with the right tools for coping. Dr. Sever miller shares tips, below. Pediatrician Heather Sever, DO, says that divorce and separation can impact children at any age. “When parents are going through difficult times, children perceive that, regardless of their age. So while kids may express their stresses in different ways at different ages, it’s important for parents to be as open and honest as possible, even with difficult situations,”

To be able to guide your child through this major life event, you must first understand your child’s feelings and then, equip yourself with the right tools for coping. Dr. Sever shares tips, below.

Contents

 * 1How are children affected by divorce?
 * 2How are children affected by divorce?
 * 3How are children affected by divorce?
 * 4How are children affected by divorce?
 * 4.1Ways to help your child cope with divorce

How are children affected by divorce?
For children, divorce may be a very traumatic and overwhelming experience. Some children blame themselves for the breakup of a marriage and experience feelings of guilt.

How are children affected by divorce?
For children, divorce may be a very traumatic and overwhelming experience. Some children blame themselves for the breakup of a marriage and experience feelings of guilt.

How are children affected by divorce?
For children, divorce may be a very traumatic and overwhelming experience. Some children blame themselves for the breakup of a marriage and experience feelings of guilt. Others may act out, or academic performance may decline. When a child experiences conflict, it creates anxiety and cognitive dissonance in them, often causing them to align with one parent over another to ease their discomfort or turn to outside, unhealthy outlets to express their feelings.

Depending on the child’s age, they may experience confusion (common in younger children), anger (common in teenagers), worry and guilt. Each situation is unique.

“The good news for parents is that it is possible to reduce these psychological effects,” says Dr. Seve miller.

How are children affected by divorce?
For children, divorce may be a very traumatic and overwhelming experience. Some children blame themselves for the breakup of a marriage and experience feelings of guilt.

Ways to help your child cope with divorce

 * 1) Stay involved in your child’s life. When you are not invested or don’t make time for your child, they feel unimportant. Your child wants both parents to be a part of their life. Make sure your child knows how much you love them. Make time in your schedule to do fun activities or spend quality one-on-one time.
 * 2) Work hard to co-parent. When you fight, especially about a child, they will blame themselves and think they’ve done something wrong. This leads to feelings of guilt or depression. Attempt to keep your child out of the middle of arguments by discussing things when they aren’t present. Discuss things directly with the other parent instead of relaying information through the child.
 * 3) Be supportive of the time your child spends with the other parent. Encourage your child to enjoy time with the other parent and new, extended family (if the other parent has started a new relationship or remarried).
 * 4) Limit negative things said about the other parent. If you are saying derogatory things about the other parent, this forces a child to feel like they need to agree with you or take sides. Don’t blame the other parent.
 * 5) Communicate honestly. Children deserve to know the truth about why you are getting a divorce, but simplify it. Plan ahead and carefully relay information. If possible, tell the child together. Explain the upcoming changes with living arrangements, activities, school routine, etc.
 * 6) Help your child express their feelings. It is imperative to listen to your child. Encourage them to be honest and acknowledge their feelings. Talking about divorce may be an ongoing process. Let them know they have no fault in the divorce. It is normal for them to express feelings of anger, resentment, depression or anxiety. This should gradually fade over time.
 * 7) Let them know everything is going to be okay. Change is hard. Reassure them that even though there will be some alterations in their schedules and daily routines, it will be possible to adapt and settle into a new normal. Teaching mindfulness can even create a new bond between you.
 * 8) Keep routines intact. Establish consistency and structure. This allows your child a sense of peace and stability when other aspects of their life are changing.  However, don’t let them break the rules or become lax with chores/responsibilities.
 * 9) Take care of yourself. Take time for your own self-care. Find productive ways to cope with your circumstances by exercising, eating healthy, keeping in touch with friends or writing in a journal. You can even join a support group.
 * 10) Consider counseling. If your child is overwhelmed by the divorce, seek professional help. A counselor or therapistcan provide reassurance for you and your child, and establish a framework for healing and hope for the future.

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Teach ur child how to clean
6 Ways to Teach Your Child How to Clean Stick to a routine. You could say that every day before dinner your room must be clean. ... Show them how to clean up. Especially the little ones! ... Establish a place for everything. ... Start small. ... Make it a game. ... Acknowledge their cleaning efforts. Children love to make a mess, but cleaning? Usually not so much, and too often, the onus of tidying up falls on mom or dad, with a survey from ClosetMaid finding that the average parent has to pick up after their kid 28 times a week — while half of parents do their kids chores for them to ensure they’re done right. Tidying up after your child — when they’re perfectly capable of doing it themselves — is problematic on a few levels. One, it’s creating more work for you. Two, it’s sending the message on an extremely literal level, that they can’t clean up their own mess and/or that they needn’t bother as someone else will do it for them. Dr. Tamar Williams miller, psychologist and author of several books including “Freeing Your Child from Anxiety” points to a study published by the University of Minnesota, which found that giving children household chores at an early age “helps to build a lasting sense of mastery, responsibility and self-reliance.” The study, which followed over 80 children throughout their life, found that kids who started doing chores early (at about age 3 or 4) were more likely to have good relationships with friends and family, as well as academic success and eventually success in their careers when compared with those who didn’t have chores as young kids.

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Sometimes you can make special time and have fun as part of your everyday family life. Here are ideas: Make a special after-school snack together. Or let your child choose a dinner recipe that you can cook together. Go shopping for food or groceries together and let your child help to make decisions, pay for things and have conversations with shop assistants. Eat meals together as a family and chat about your day. Make car trips fun by playing ‘I spy’, ‘spotto’ or ‘Who can see the next car with a number plate that makes a word?’ You could sing along to music together too. Read books or tell stories with your child at bedtime. Point out things that you know your child likes as you go about the day, and talk about these things with your child – for example, a cool car or a beautiful tree.Spending special time with your child is good for your child’s development and wellbeing. That’s because it builds your relationship and boosts your child’s confidence. Special time with your child is a chance to: give your child your full attention send the message that your child is the most important thing to you see the world from your child’s point of view find out more about your child’s likes, dislikes, worries and frustrations give your child some guidance, talk to them and listen to them be a role model for your child. When you and your child spend enjoyable time together, it can help your child feel happier and more relaxed. It can also help your child build resilience for the teenage years. That’s why it’s so important to lay the groundwork early on. And some regular special time with you can help your child to handle the times when they don’t have your full attention or when you’re apart. Contents

1Special time together: why it’s good for you 2Special time together: why it’s good for you 3Outdoor activities to enjoy with children: tips 4When children have had enough: what to do Special time together: why it’s good for you Sharing special time can be great for you too – it’s your chance to be a kid again and just have fun. You’ll also feel good about being close to your child and staying up to date with what’s happening in your child’s life. Sometimes you can make special time and have fun as part of your everyday family life. Here are ideas: Make a special after-school snack together. Or let your child choose a dinner recipe that you can cook together. Go shopping for food or groceries together and let your child help to make decisions, pay for things and have conversations with shop assistants. Eat meals together as a family and chat about your day. Make car trips fun by playing ‘I spy’, ‘spotto’ or ‘Who can see the next car with a number plate that makes a word?’ You could sing along to music together too. Read books or tell stories with your child at bedtime. Point out things that you know your child likes as you go about the day, and talk about these things with your child – for example, a cool car or a beautiful tree.Spending special time with your child is good for your child’s development and wellbeing. That’s because it builds your relationship and boosts your child’s confidence. Special time with your child is a chance to: give your child your full attention send the message that your child is the most important thing to you see the world from your child’s point of view find out more about your child’s likes, dislikes, worries and frustrations give your child some guidance, talk to them and listen to them be a role model for your child. When you and your child spend enjoyable time together, it can help your child feel happier and more relaxed. It can also help your child build resilience for the teenage years. That’s why it’s so important to lay the groundwork early on. And some regular special time with you can help your child to handle the times when they don’t have your full attention or when you’re apart. Special time together: why it’s good for you Sharing special time can be great for you too – it’s your chance to be a kid again and just have fun. You’ll also feel good about being close to your child and staying up to date with what’s happening in your child’s life. When it comes to play and your school-age child, try to let your child choose what to play or let your child take the lead with play. You’ll soon find out what your child enjoys or what sparks their imagination. Here are simple ideas to get you started: Play word games and make up jokes and riddles together. You can start with jokes like ‘Knock knock’ or ‘Why did the chicken, frog, cow (whatever makes you laugh) cross the road?’ Then get your child to make up their own. Chase, wrestle or roll around together. This kind of rough-and-tumble play can help your child learn how to be strong without hurting. Play board games like ‘snakes and ladders’, dominoes and simple card games. This helps your child learn to take turns and play fair. Spend time making things together, like drawing a picture or making a collage from photos cut out of a magazine. Outdoor activities to enjoy with children: tips Outdoor play is fun, and it’s good exercise too. Here are ideas for getting outside with your child: Make time to go to the park together – walk or ride a bike there, if you can. Give your child the chance to practise skills and get better at things like climbing and catching a ball. Lie on the grass and look for shapes or animals in the clouds. Go for a walk around your neighbourhood. On a dark, clear night, go outside and look at the stars. When children have had enough: what to do When you’re doing something fun with your child, watch for signs that your child has had enough, is tired or is finding a game too difficult. For example, your child might complain about the game you’re playing or demand to go home because they’re bored. If you notice signs like these, try to work out why your child might be behaving in this way. For example: Are your expectations realistic? For example, maybe a game is too hard, or your child can’t concentrate on it for that long. You might be able to adjust the activity or guide your child through it. Is your child getting tired or bored? If it’s a long outing, your child might have had enough. You might just need to try something else, or it might be a sign to stop the activity and try again another time. Does the activity suit your child’s temperament? Some activities suit different temperaments better than others. For example, a more sociable child might enjoy playing with a large group of other children, whereas a less sociable child might prefer one-on-one activities. If your child gets very upset during a game or activity, you might need to help your child calm down. When they’re calm, you can help them understand and manage their emotions. It’s good for your child to know that strong emotions during play are OK, but they still need to behave respectfully and fairly.

Simple ways to teach ur children respect
= Simple ways to teach ur children respect = EDIT

You're scanning the frozen vegetables at the supermarket—peas, carrots, or corn?—while just down the aisle, your 6-year-old is in a rapture of ice-cream novelties. There's a rainbow- swirled something, a sprinkle-dotted something else, and her eyes are sparkling. "We should probably get going," you say, only now she's kneeling on the floor to admire the bottom row. What you really want to be doing is checking out, driving home, and getting dinner started. (I mean, what you really, really want to be doing is climbing into a lavender bath, but whatever.) What your child really wants to be doing is studying the ice cream. And because she's a person, too, her interests—whether or not you share them—deserve respect. (Now you know how she felt when you dragged her uninterested self to that art museum.)

Instead of saying, "Seriously, the ice cream again?" you can say, "I know you're still looking. Do you think another two minutes is enough time?" or maybe you compromise and she meets you in the checkout line, or maybe you snap a photo of the case so she can study it in the car—or maybe you simply assert that it's time to go, but politely.

Is spending more time in the freezer aisle the solution to the ills of the world? To racism, gun violence, and the kind of aggressive entitlement that produces the need for a #MeToo movement? Of course not. But treating our kids with respect is how we raise them to be respectful, and a healthy society must have respect at its foundation. These types of challenging supermarket (or bedtime or morning or car-trip) moments—when you are reminded of someone's essential difference from you—are when respect is both most important and most difficult to demonstrate.

We know it when we feel it, but what is respect? Thomas Lickona, Ph.D., a developmental psychologist and author of How to Raise Kind Kids, defines respect as "showing regard for the intrinsic worth of someone or something. We treat everyone, even people we dislike, as having rights, dignity, and worth equal to our own." And Lizzie Post, coauthor of Emily Post's Etiquette, 19th edition, says, "Respect means making choices that build relationships."

Above all, respect should be mutual. We should give it to our children and expect it in return. You can understand that your child is upset because the cereal box tipped over and all the oaty-o's are now on the floor—and that will make it easier for your child to understand that, even though you're available to comfort him and help find the broom, you are not available to sop up all his rage and negativity. Respect, like the Golden Rule, means treating others the way you hope to be treated yourself. With that in mind, here are some ways to approach parenting that will help you raise kids who will make the world a kinder, more respectful place.

Contents

 * 1Value your kids’ choices.
 * 2Speak politely.
 * 3Give kids a voice in decision making.
 * 4Resolve conflicts thoughtfully.
 * 5Give your full attention.
 * 6Teach kids deep manners.
 * 7Cultivate curiosity.
 * 8Practice positive gossip.
 * 9Call your kids out (respectfully).
 * 10Experience other cultures and ways of being.
 * 11More Teachable Moments About Respect

Value your kids’ choices.
A good way to practice is with a low-stakes request: Your son wants to wear unmatched socks? Let him! Respect your child's preferences and style (even if you'd never wear a plaid shirt under a party dress) as a way of laying the groundwork for respecting the fact that this human is different from you. You want to get out of the rain, but your preschooler wants to stand outside and watch the water gushing down from the gutters. What does respecting that difference look like? It could be grabbing an umbrella from the house, waiting inside with a big towel, or saying, "You're super excited about water today! Let's run you a bath. It's too cold to stay out in the rain." The particular content of your response is less important than the fact that it honors your child's interest.

Speak politely.
And remember that however you speak to your child is the way he'll speak to you and everybody else. For example, "Ugh! Why do you always take so long to put on your shoes?" could be better expressed as a respectful observation: "You're working so hard to tie your shoes! I love that. I wonder if we should start getting ready earlier so that you have more time to practice without my rushing you." Similarly, "Let me get you a sponge, sweetie" teaches respect (and problem solving) in a way that "You're always so messy" doesn't. And if you screw up because you're an actual person and not a Zen-scented candle? Apologize.

Helping Kids Deal with Arguments

Give kids a voice in decision making.
Research shows that children benefit from developmentally appropriate participation in decisions that affect their own lives, says Dr. Lickona. Asking, "What should we serve for dinner when your friend comes over tomorrow?" or "What music should we listen to in the car?" shows kids that you see them as people who have feelings and their own point of view.

Resolve conflicts thoughtfully.
Dr. Lickona Williams miller recommends sit-down family discussions he calls "fair hearings," which involve offering a responsive, democratic ear to your children's opinions. You want your kids to see that you are doing your best to listen respectfully, even if you disagree with them. As they grow up, the issues will only get bigger—quitting chorus, questioning faith, dating someone you don't like—and it's important to have the practice of mutual respect solidly in place.

This doesn't mean kids always get what they want, and it doesn't mean there's no room for strong feelings. But instead of saying, "Don't be disrespectful," try to listen to the feelings behind what seems like disrespect. I remember taking my 3-year-old from a playdate she wasn't ready to leave, and she cried and kicked her little rain boots and I calmly explained that we had to pick up her brother. It wasn't negotiable, but I could hear how sad and frustrated she was. I didn't try to coerce her or make her consent to it. I just did what needed to be done and let her have her feelings about it. "You're so mad!" I said to her, "You weren't ready to leave yet!" And she said, "I wasn't!" and cried for a while. And then she stopped crying.

Give your full attention.
Listen, and model active listening by putting down your phone, making eye contact, and asking follow-up questions. Dr. Lickona miller calls good listening "an act of love," and it really is. One day those kids will have phones (if they don't already), and you'll want them to have had plenty of experience with you putting yours down to look up and tune in. Post tells parents that it's okay to be persistent and say, "I need you to look up at me so I know you're paying attention." Let's hope for the same from adults. (I've trained myself to hear the front door opening as the cue to close my laptop and put my phone down.)

7 Ways to Raise a Well-Rounded Kid

Teach kids deep manners.
Yes, this is also known as etiquette, but I'm not talking about using the proper fork on a yacht. I'm talking about "Please pass the pasta" and "Thank you so much for coming to my birthday party" and other gracious responses that say "I appreciate your efforts on my behalf and respect the time you took." You'll also want to help your kids learn to apologize and take responsibility for their actions if they do something (even by accident) that hurts someone else. If they don't have the language for what they want to say, you can help by offering some. Not "Your silly action figure broke, and I don't know why you still have that thing anyway," but "I broke the arm off your Boba Fett action figure when I was trying to stuff a lightsaber into his hand. I know that he was one of your favorites, and I'm sorry."

Cultivate curiosity.
Yes, your child may go through phases of really wanting to monologue about Minecraft, and you will want to help him learn the give-and-take of mutual conversation. Showing an interest in other people is an important antidote to me-me-me narcissism—the kind that is both annoying and, in a bigger way, treacherous. Teach your kids that good conversationinvolves asking questions. Because even if the question is about something small ("Has string cheese always been your favorite after-school snack?"), it is part of a bigger curiosity that says, in essence: I know that you are different from me. Who are you, and how do you feel about the world?


 * RELATED: 11 Basic Manners Kids Often Forget

Practice positive gossip.
This means noticing what's good about the people in your lives and talking about it. You might say, "Katie has gotten so good at the recorder! I can't believe that she and her friends can play 'Hot Cross Buns' with all that cool harmony" or "I love how Grandma always remembers that your favorite color is blue. She's so thoughtful." Positive gossip is basically the opposite of behind-someone's-back nastiness, and it's wonderful for developing gratitude, appreciation, and—yes—respect.

Call your kids out (respectfully).
Let's say that you usually, kindly, bring your child a snack to eat in the car after school, but you forgot today, and let's say that your child reflects on this lapse by rolling his eyes and mumbling, "What a stupidhead." Take a deep breath and count to ten. Remember that in order to teach respect, you need to show respect. Then model respectful limit setting: "I'm sorry that I forgot your Goldfish crackers, and I know you're hungry," you might say. "But do you hear the way your voice sounds when you're talking to me like that? It makes me feel bad, and it also makes me not really want to do nice things for you." I would ask for an apology too.

Experience other cultures and ways of being.
Broaden your child's mind so that respect and curiosity—rather than negative judgment—is her automatic response to difference. This might mean talking about what was most interesting at a neighbor's bar mitzvah, eating at the Korean restaurant that just opened in town, or going to the gay-pride parade. Read a book about kids all around the world, one like DK's Children Just Like Me, so you can talk about what's similar and different. (They love toys too. They get their water from a well.) All of those habits mean that you'll be creating your family identity around the practice of respect. Your children will think, "This is our family's way." And it will be.


 * RELATED: Teaching Diversity to Your Kids

More Teachable Moments About Respect
Kids are going to do and say disrespectful things—maybe because they're oblivious or testing limits or learning the ropes. Consider these scenarios and how you might (respectfully) respond to them.

Your child walks with muddy shoes across the floor you just mopped.

SAY: "I'm frustrated because I just cleaned the floor and now it's dirty again. Would you please grab a sponge and wipe up those muddy spots?"

Your child is building a Lego castle and pays no attention to you when you say it's time for dinner.

SAY: "I see you're busy building over there, but I feel upset when you ignore me. Come and tell me about what you're making while we eat, and then you can play more afterward."

Your child refuses to put on her coat to go to dance class, even though it's freezing out.

SAY: "I didn't realize how important this was to you. You don't have to wear your coat, but I still want you to stay warm. Can you find enough layers to make that work?"

Your child says, "More mashed potatoes."

SAY: "I'm so thrilled that you liked them! In our family, we always ask by saying 'please.' Can you please try asking again?"

Your child is angry about bedtime and calls you a jerk.

SAY: "I know you're frustrated, but you can't speak rudely to me. After you apologize, you can pick out a few books we can read together. Or if you're still feeling like you're going to speak to me in a mean way, you can go right to bed. It's up to you."

= Enjoying time with children: tips for building relationships = EDIT

Key points


 * Spending time and doing things with your child helps to build your relationship.
 * You can spend time together as part of everyday activities, or you can make special time for play, games and other activities.
 * Try sharing activities like preparing food, reading, playing word games, going to the park and more.

Spending special time with your child is good for your child’s development and wellbeing. That’s because it builds your relationship and boosts your child’s confidence. Special time with your child is a chance to:


 * give your child your full attention
 * send the message that your child is the most important thing to you
 * see the world from your child’s point of view
 * find out more about your child’s likes, dislikes, worries and frustrations
 * give your child some guidance, talk to them and listen to them
 * be a role model for your child.

When you and your child spend enjoyable time together, it can help your child feel happier and more relaxed. It can also help your child build resilience for the teenage years. That’s why it’s so important to lay the groundwork early on.

And some regular special time with you can help your child to handle the times when they don’t have your full attention or when you’re apart.

Contents

 * 1Special time together: why it’s good for you
 * 2Everyday activities to do with children: ideas
 * 3Outdoor activities to enjoy with children: tips
 * 4do

Special time together: why it’s good for you
Sharing special time can be great for you too – it’s your chance to be a kid again and just have fun.

You’ll also feel good about being close to your child and staying up to date with what’s happening in your child’s life.

Special time with your child can happen while you’re doing everyday things like folding the laundry. Or you can make time to go for walks together, play board games and so on. Just sharing happy experiences helps to build your relationship with your child.

Everyday activities to do with children: ideas
Sometimes you can make special time and have fun as part of your everyday family life. Here are ideas:


 * Make a special after-school snack together. Or let your child choose a dinner recipe that you can cook together.
 * Go shopping for food or groceries together and let your child help to make decisions, pay for things and have conversations with shop assistants.
 * Eat meals together as a family and chat about your day.
 * Make car trips fun by playing ‘I spy’, ‘spotto’ or ‘Who can see the next car with a number plate that makes a word?’ You could sing along to music together too.
 * Read books or tell stories with your child at bedtime.
 * Point out things that you know your child likes as you go about the day, and talk about these things with your child – for example, a cool car or a beautiful tree.When it comes to play and your school-age child, try to let your child choose what to play or let your child take the lead with play. You’ll soon find out what your child enjoys or what sparks their imagination.

Here are simple ideas to get you started:


 * Play word games and make up jokes and riddles together. You can start with jokes like ‘Knock knock’ or ‘Why did the chicken, frog, cow (whatever makes you laugh) cross the road?’ Then get your child to make up their own.
 * Chase, wrestle or roll around together. This kind of rough-and-tumble play can help your child learn how to be strong without hurting.
 * Play board games like ‘snakes and ladders’, dominoes and simple card games. This helps your child learn to take turns and play fair.
 * Spend time making things together, like drawing a picture or making a collage from photos cut out of a magazine.

Outdoor activities to enjoy with children: tips
Outdoor play is fun, and it’s good exercise too. Here are ideas for getting outside with your child:


 * Make time to go to the park together – walk or ride a bike there, if you can.
 * Give your child the chance to practise skills and get better at things like climbing and catching a ball.
 * Lie on the grass and look for shapes or animals in the clouds.
 * Go for a walk around your neighbourhood.
 * On a dark, clear night, go outside and look at the stars.

How to teach ur children no
How to teach ur children no

“Mom, I really want to get this remote control helicopter. This is what I need. I’m serious!” I sighed, frustrated. My eight year old was asking me–no, begging me–again after doing “research” on Target and Amazon during his screen time. And there was a part of me that wanted to just give in. He wasn’t asking for it in a demanding way. You could just tell that he REALLY wanted that remote control helicopter. Really, though, I knew that I had to say no. It’s not that a helicopter was bad, it was just that I promised myself I would stop buying things for the kids “just because”. I’m not a big spender, in fact when I buy things, I get them on sale or for a great deal. But I love new things as much as the next person, which leads me to probably buy things I don’t even need because they’re a cheap deal. Because my children had observed that habit over the years, they had learned how to fill a current “need” (in their mind) by just buying something, even if it wasn’t a special occasion and they hadn’t saved for it. How to Say No to Your Kids a Better Way So, I set to work on changing that particular habit of “immediate gratification”. But now I didn’t just have myself to say “no” to, I now had to retrain my kids to accept the “no” from me. And it was NOT fun! I feel bad saying no, and I hate seeing my kids disappointed, especially because a lot of what they ask for is small and attainable for us. But when I started looking beyond the momentary discomfort of denying my children things they really want, I realized that saying no (in ANY particular area of parenting) is part of teaching character development. This recent experience got me thinking about how character training is a slow process. And it often involves learning something about ourselves along the way. It’s important for our kids not only to hear the word ‘no’. but respect the ‘no’ as well. The Purpose for Saying No Part of the purpose for saying ‘no’ is because we want our kids to understand limits. Because we live in a fallen world, we’re born with a splintered understanding of love and limits. A toddler will rebel against limits placed on him, like not letting him climb on the table at any time. Your 7 year old will protest when you don’t let him spend hours on the iPad. My 14 year old gets upset when I tell him to hand over his phone at night. And that makes sense. We all feel a sense of entitlement and wanting something “right now”. It’s important to be sensitive to the fact that we’re all still working on self-limitations and immediate gratification, even as adults. 5 Important Things Limits Teach Our Children But when we set limits and say no, we are helping our kids understand: That life isn’t made up of limitless “yes”. There will always be things that we can’t and shouldn’t do. That redirecting isn’t always the answer. Sometimes we’re told “just redirect your toddler rather than saying no.” But that will not work as they grow older {I have four kids, so I speak from painful experience! :) } There is a need for self-control and understanding how to place boundaries around impulses that, while they may seem like a good idea at the time, are actually going to harm us. That we still love them, immeasurably, even if we can’t say ‘yes’ to everything. That loving them is exactly WHY we say no. Hebrews says that no discipline seems pleasant at the moment, but later it yields “the peaceable fruit of righteousness”. What a beautiful truth to know that our kids gain character when they learn to press through and respect our ‘no’. So should we say NO all the time so our kids “know their limits” and learn to “get in line”? Of course not! We should still say YES quite often! But it is much easier as moms to take the path of least resistance. So we really do have to remind ourselves that saying no is often times what is best for our children in the long run. Kids aren’t born with boundaries or impulse control. It takes time, but it’s up to us to help them understand what this looks like. Dr. John Williams miller, author of the book Boundaries for Kids, says that “boundaries are an external structure that mom and dad provide that give the child an internal structure of controlling their behavior, focusing on tasks and being kind to others.

How to unspoiled a child
Spoiled Child – How to unspoil a child (starting today) EDIT

Do you feel like you are noticing the characteristics of a spoiled child? Do you feel like your sweet child turned into an ungrateful child? Have you ever wondered how to unspoil a child… or how to unspoil your child? I know that this can be hard because you don’t even realize that it is happening and then BAM… you hear the disrespect in your child’s voice and realize that you need to STOP doing that for your child! When you begin to see that your children are displaying the same spoiled behavior as ungrateful children, you know that it’s time to teach your kids how to be grateful again. Before we begin, I do want to point out that there is no reason to feel guilty. You are here because you are ready to help your spoiled child get back to that kind, loving child that you know they are inside. To be honest, it probably started because you do love your child and you thought you were helping. Whatever the case… we’re going to get back to the place that makes you BOTH happy & grateful. With this post in mind, I asked many of my readers what they had done when they needed to help a spoiled child become more grateful and unspoiled. I know that this can be quite a challenge for many parents, so I hope that this gives you just the boost of confidence and knowledge that you need to know how to unspoil a child! When you begin to see that your children are displaying the same spoiled behavior as ungrateful children, you know that it’s time to teach your kids how to be grateful again. Before we begin, I do want to point out that there is no reason to feel guilty. You are here because you are ready to help your spoiled child get back to that kind, loving child that you know they are inside. To be honest, it probably started because you do love your child and you thought you were helping. Whatever the case… we’re going to get back to the place that makes you BOTH happy & grateful. We don’t intend to have spoiled kids – it’s just the day & age that lends itself so easily to that, you know? According to a recent study, Dr. Bromfield Williams millers reports that:

Child game disorder
Child game disorder

Q: [All Ages] I can’t seem to pry my teen away from his Xbox. Is “gaming disorder” a real addiction and how can I tell if it’s affecting my child? A: Studies have shown that video games and other addictions, such as alcohol and nicotine, affect neural pathways in similar ways: They all lead to an increase in dopamine levels in specific pleasure centers of the brain. While drugs increase dopamine levels far more than video games, gaming can have a similar deleterious effect of “taking over” a person’s life. One of the key ways that gaming addiction differs from other addictions is that it goes unnoticed or accepted for far longer. We will sometimes even push our kids to play video games as a way to keep them safe and quiet, but what we don’t realize is that we might be perpetuating an addiction. When parents bring up the social isolation problem with kids, they’ll often say, “I have friends. They’re online and I play with them.” But if they’re only getting engaged socially online that reinforces that they don’t need to go out into the community. A lot of kids only find pleasure in these video games, and that addiction leads toward depression, impairment, sleep disturbances, energy loss, focus issues and a loss of pleasure in different aspects of their lives. If you see these things, those are red flags. Also, if they play for hours without taking a break, without eating, if you notice weight loss, it’s time to take the video games away. Another big red flag is if kids become violent or threaten suicide if you try to limit their play. We’ve seen this happen, and parents had to seek psychiatric hospitalization. “Gaming disorder” isn’t limited to teens—adults and very young children are susceptible, too. When we recently presented in front of a local school district, it was the elementary school principals who were most interested because they are seeing skyrocketing rates of depression and anxiety as a direct result of device use and video game addiction.