User blog comment:Sannse/Converting Conflict to Calm/@comment-26753070-20111008005740

I sometimes find that taking a break, like using the time between talk page messages is more useful than speaking to them instantaneously. It allows for a few minutes (to hours) to collect your thoughts and consider the other person's view. If I'm in a real-time chat I tend to think the situation not as far out as I would if I had say several minutes to an hour or so to think things out.