User blog comment:ForestFairy/How to resolve conflict/@comment-11842624-20150821112843

you have not offered a method of conflict resolution. the conclusion of the contract "we talk for hours a day to resolve the conflict" does not count. I mean, you need to fully describe the algorithm "what to do", to reveal the meaning of the words "search for solutions"
 * using translate

from my personal experience, most conflicts boil down to the following scheme: there is some proposition or problem (A). someone thinks that they should be resolved (A transform to B). the other side of the conflict thinks otherwise either not have to do anything (A=A) or A transform to C (worst scenario - when in response to a signal "And should be changed to" no answer at all = ).

the logic of the initiator and the opponent is often not identical. thats why options is different. of course they can find a joint solution. but only if the decision is not one contradicts the other. this is the worst kind of conflict: the controversial proposals. if one of them contradicts the other, does not take into account some important details of the situation is clear. although in this case the third party may not take the right decision (because it is based on the logic of a third party, and not objectively the best)

the task of the "administrator" in any case reduce the tension of the dispute. next, you should analyze the situation and proposed solutions from all sides. and most impossible - to find a way to combine these two solutions. make them available at the same time. of course often it is not possible within a single project, because the version of the page or word/design or layout, rules can only be one.

typical mistakes by the administration: avoid/block/rejection/lack of/manipulation/judgment/etc. is not resolving of situation presented in conflict. conflict = disput with the free expression of emotions which not allowed on Wikia. but conflict resolution is not in compliance with the rules of conduct. here, a complex and brutal rule that is in contact with concepts such as oratory, the ability to reveal the essence, manipulation and personal likes.
 * making own opinion as a "determinant"
 * not understanding one of the logics (often used shortcut trolling and offer completely ignored now by the administration/the other side, which is unacceptable)
 * if you can't understand someone else's logic and cannot prove its fallacy in words, you are not you have no right to assert that this is trolling. trolling unlike a true words has no clear base, which however you may not agree (not considered a problem). "if I don't see it doesn't mean that in front of me trolling"
 * the neglect or failure in solving/addressing the problem due to lack of skills, capabilities, time or desire.
 * but when the normal order of things is disturbed in favor of the rules of conduct.. it only hurt and disappoint.