Thread:CHIDIEStar15/@comment-24260217-20190925084708/@comment-25651207-20191005225938

CHIDIEStar15 wrote: Message to BOTH FixgeesGhost and Emmaelise401.

Fixgees, I was going to remind Plaxton that I know Amelia's pet peeve of being called by her username and will tell him what Amelia did more on Steven Universe Wiki, the same Wiki that you, Emmaelise, and I are discussing in this thread. And well, some user on that Wiki acted like Amelia in this Wiki by using caps and exclamation marks in anger towards the SU Wiki's admins on my old account message wall for repeatedly denying to unblock him from the Wiki after one of them blocked him infinitely for repeatedly spamming comments about rumors of what’s going to happen on Steven Universe, which annoyed every user. He is Hardworker2932.

Emmaelise, I already got help. My mother drove me to my therapist the other day on Thursday and showed him the Steven Universe Wiki so I can show him the bad relationship I had with the admins, especially The Casagrandes Wiki. He told me to take a break. And I must remind you to watch your language, FANDOM/Wikia does NOT allowed swearing, general swearing. And to let you know, I don’t like them. I REPEAT, I did got help. Only this specific FANDOM (Community Fandom) doesn't allow swearing, FANDOMs that are created by contributors can have their own rules on it if they please. I'm not sure if this is exactly what you were doing, but calling rulebreakers out when you don't have admin privileges or etc. seems like minimodding to me, but if you were just reminding Emma not to do it to keep her out of trouble in the future, then that's fine.

First and foremost, something you've been doing a lot is talking about other people a lot more than yourself, even though that's not the purpose of this thread and numerous others that I've found in your histories on here and the SU wiki. For example, you brought up Amelia and Hardworker here, both of whom are pretty irrelevant to this thread. If you want to talk to Plaxton about Amelia's behavior, that is totally fine and there is nothing wrong with that, but I just don't understand why you feel the need to bring it up here, when we're here talking about you and your issues.

And I agree with what Emma said above. Even though talking with your issues to people is a good way to go about it, you still have a few behavioral issues that need to be addressed.

1. Whenever people seem to disagree with one of your ideas, you don't really like that. And I get it, I know that "my way or the high way" vibe, but you can't just lose it on people just because they disagree with you. There is a difference between people who peacefully disagree with you and people who purposefully argue and flame about it. If someone just says "I disagree because..." or something along those lines, it's most likely a peaceful disagreement. Whenever you have a peaceful disagreement, you can try to persuade them why you think you're right or you can just admit defeat, I'm not the boss of you, but arguing and/or flaming is pretty much never the way to go.

2. As Piierogii has previously said to you in a thread on the SU wiki, real life issues are best suited to stay there. I have been going through a lot of tough times lately so I can get how you're feeling but I never talk about them on FANDOM because I know it's not the place for it. If you're comfortable sharing it with certain people on the site then you can, but I would recommend doing so elsewhere, like in Discord or Skype. I just don't think it's a good idea to air issues that have been going on in your life in public like this, because that would be taking a risk that could result in you being hurt further.

3. Whether intentional or not, you tend to be manipulative of others, and hypocritical at times (possibly even self-centered). For example, you harassed the admins on the SU wiki over someone else's block, in other words, you intruded on something that was none of your concern, yet, when people intrude on YOUR conversations, you tend to get mad at them. I have also seen firsthand you attempting to assert non-existent authority over the SU wiki admins as what I would assume to be a method of avoiding punishment and/or having your feelings hurt. You have to understand that there are rules on a site for a reason and you must abide by them. EVERYBODY has to abide by site rules, regardless of race, gender, religion, disability, etc., you are just like every other patron on that wiki. If you want to tell people how getting blocked or punished will make you feel, you can go ahead, but you always have to remember that you are just like everybody else, which means that you too are susceptible to being blocked or punished if you break the rules, and there's nothing wrong with that either. Being blocked or punished in any form isn't to humiliate, degrade, victimize or pester you, it is to teach you a lesson that you should follow the rules, and that's what should be taken from it instead of what you've been taking from it.

I did not bring up these issues in an attempt to insult you, and if I in any way offended you by bringing these to your attention I'm sorry, but I feel like you don't really understand what you're doing wrong and as a result I can't help but attempt to enlighten you, in hopes that you may move to the future as a more reasonable and understanding person. I am not bringing this up to harm you, the SU wiki admins did not bring what they brought up to harm you, users on any site did not bring what they brought up to harm you, everybody's only been bringing these up because they are actual issues that we feel need to be worked on. The problem here is, if you keep acting like you have control over everybody's thoughts and actions, they won't want to be around you anymore, and I know you probably don't want that, so you have to work to improve yourself, and move on from everything that's been bothering you.

I know from experience it can be hard to move on, I still haven't yet moved on from issues in my life, but normally when I am upset I try to get away from what's upsetting me for a while, and then return when I feel I'm ready to do so. I have found that opening up to family and friends also works, and even using these situations as a creative outlet (for example, I cope by pretending my heart and mind are at war). Perhaps most importantly, you should always look for the bright side in the dim situations, because if you just keep looking at the negative side of things, you will never move on.